Splitting parenting time with your ex in ways that work

On Behalf of | Jan 29, 2025 | Divorce |

When parents separate, one of their biggest concerns (usually) is how to share time with their children moving forward. Kids (again, usually) need both parents in their lives, but figuring out a fair and workable parenting time schedule can be challenging. 

If your relationship with your child’s other parent is ending and you’re not sure how to make your new circumstances work, that’s okay. The key is to focus on what’s best for your child while creating a plan that works for both parents.

What makes the most sense?

The most important thing to remember when deciding on a parenting schedule is that your child’s well-being generally needs to come first. Children often do best when they have strong relationships with both parents. They need to feel safe, loved and secure. Even if you and your ex don’t get along, working together to support your child is likely the best way to help them adjust to the new family situation.

With that said, there is no one-size-fits-all parenting schedule. The right plan for your family should be influenced by your child’s needs, your work schedules and how well you and your ex communicate. Common schedules that work for many families include:

  • Every Other Weekend – One parent has the child most of the time, while the other gets every other weekend. This is common when one parent has a busy work schedule or lives farther away.
  • Week On, Week Off – Parents switch weeks, giving the child equal time with each parent. This works best for older kids who can handle longer periods away from each parent.
  • 2-2-3 Schedule – The child spends two days with one parent, two days with the other, and then alternates weekends. This keeps both parents involved throughout the week.
  • School Week vs. Weekends – One parent has the child during the school week, while the other has weekends. This can work well when parents live far apart or have different work schedules.

Schedules are important. They allow for predictability so that everyone can plan. But, life happens. As a result, you and your ex may find that your work schedules change, kids get sick and special events come up. It’s important to be flexible and willing to adjust when needed. If you and your ex can communicate well, swapping days or making small changes can make things easier for everyone.

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